Do you and your love feel stuck in the same conversational pattern over and over? Are trivial triggers spiraling into fights about core issues from the past? Does it feel like no matter what the topic, the conversation ends up the same way—in tears, frustration, and isolation?

Often when couples call us, they are having trouble communicating.

More frequently than not, rather than really listening to our partners, we are formulating our response while our partner is talking. 

What happens then is that nobody feels heard, nobody feels acknowledged, nobody feels understood, and this wedge drives couples further and further away from the intimacy and secure attachment that we all crave so deeply and is available to all us. 

Couples therapy provides couples—unmarried, pre-marital, and married—with an alternative to feeling helpless and confused in love. Our therapists use Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy , the Gottman Method, and PACT.

Frequent areas that couples therapy addresses include:

• Improving communication skills

• Intimacy and sex

• Infidelity and Affairs

• Finances

• Pre-marital counseling

• Family planning

• Addiction and Codependency

• Family-of-origin issues

In our sessions, we will:

• Identify your patterns that lead to negative interaction loops

• Learn and implement communication and active listening skills using the Gottman Method

• Explore negative thought patterns and negative interpretations preventing you from fully connecting with your partner

• Secure the attachment and deepen the foundation through the development of healthy love and secure functioning using Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy and PACT.

• Explore family-of-origin issues and how these affect the way we communicate and attach in our intimate relationships.

pre-marital therapy in los angeles, CA

Pre-marital counseling can be extremely beneficial to couples in the planning stages. Do you see a bright future with the love of your life, but want to make sure you are on the same page in terms of your goals and values for your future? Get ahead of the curve to ensure the happiest and most fulfilling long-term relationship by coming to pre-marital counseling. Put it all out on the table so that there are no surprises, and gain tools for the difficult times ahead. Life only gets more complicated so this is the best time to learn about what a healthy relationship really looks like and how to create that secure base.