There’s a common misbelief that therapists are like all-knowing wizards perched on top of a mountain, overseeing everyone’s climb
To pause does not mean to avoid, withdraw, dismiss, or ignore your partner's feelings. In fact, it signals, “I care enough to truly listen to what you have to say, but my brain isn’t in the right place to do that right now”.
AI offers a very different kind of interaction. It is private, predictable, and emotionally neutral. That can feel safe, especially if vulnerability has felt uncomfortable in the past. But that same safety does not gently challenge us to grow in real time
The moment we pick something up, our brain starts asking: How can I get better at this? How can I optimize this? Is this a productive use of my Saturday? The result? We never actually relax.
Change can be exciting, a chance to start over and experience new opportunities and challenges. We are often taught and expected to celebrate these transitions. So it can be confusing when we feel emotions other than joy or excitement.
There’s a common misbelief that therapists are like all-knowing wizards perched on top of a mountain, overseeing everyone’s climb