Jessica's Posts, Self Care & Mindfulness
Becky White George
Opposite Action

Have you ever noticed that sometimes the very thing you want to do the least is what would help you the most? When all you want to do is isolate, but the most beneficial step would be to pick up the phone and call a friend? When all you want to do is close the blinds and lay in bed, but you’d really feel better by getting outside? The Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT) skill of opposite action can be helpful when we notice this behavior coming up!

Opposite Action
Atalie's Posts, Self Care & Mindfulness
Becky White George
Nature Metaphors: Therapeutic Tools

Metaphors have a powerful ability to illustrate abstract ideas. I absolutely love using metaphors with clients to discuss more complex human experiences in order to add a visual and contextual layer from which to understand these experiences, most often being our relationship to our thoughts and emotions. Unsurprisingly, many of the metaphors I use relate to nature, which I view as the ultimate teacher.

Nature Metaphors: Therapeutic Tools
Relationships & Communication, Kalie's posts
Becky White George
Differences In Sexual Desire

Instead of solely focusing on initiating sex, prioritize building emotional intimacy through positive interactions, including non-sexual affection. By allowing sexual arousal to naturally emerge from the playful, fun experiences that you’re both enjoying - laughing, talking, hugging, kissing, flirting - you can build a more satisfying bond without the agenda of having sex. In the midst of hanging out and having fun, your responsive desire partner may start to get aroused.

Differences In Sexual Desire
Self Care & Mindfulness, Sophia's Posts
Becky White George
Craving Dopamine

Dopamine, often referred to as the "feel-good" neurotransmitter, plays a pivotal role in our brain's reward system. It's the chemical messenger responsible for feelings of pleasure, motivation, and reinforcement. And in today's fast-paced world, where stress seems to lurk around every corner, it's no wonder we often find ourselves seeking out dopamine in various forms.

Craving Dopamine
Relationships & Communication, Jessica's Posts
Becky White George
The Rupture-Repair Cycle

The “rupture-repair cycle” is a crucial part of any relationship. As much as we don’t mean to, we sometimes hurt and let down the people we care about. There is some inevitability to this (though we should try to minimize it as much as possible!) but the repair after a rupture creates an opportunity for growth and reconnection.

The Rupture-Repair Cycle

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Am I on the Right Path?

I recently came full circle as I started teaching a course as an adjunct professor at Pepperdine’s Graduate School of Education and Psychology in Malibu. I remember growing up and passing by the campus on our family trips to the beach during the summers, and just a few years ago driving up the winding road as a graduate student myself. This winding road up the campus was symbolic of the path I committed to, all the while being filled with curiosity of where this academic and career path would lead me. Time has elapsed and my personal journey is life-long. As a therapist and professor, I still find myself holding a deep stance of curiosity.

I absolutely hate icebreakers- and I feel like I’m not alone in this experience! Yet, it was the first day of the semester and I needed to ask certain questions to familiarize myself with my students. As I went around the room asking questions trying to make the icebreaker portion of the introductions as tolerable as possible, I included the question: “Where do you envision yourself in the future?” with the caveat, “This can change and potentially will!”. Some students had a clearly articulated vision, others a more ambiguous one. One of my students answered boldly that she didn’t know and was open to all the possibilities. As I sat in this room with humans with a certain vision and commitment to the path to becoming a therapist- my recent reflections on my own life and ambitions became more salient: whether you have a clear plan of what you want or are simply open to the possibilities, this inquiry is essential to navigating your direction: am I on the right path?

Signs You’re on the Right Path (For You!)

You’re Moving Towards Something versus Away From Something 

One powerful way to identify whether you’re on the right path is to assess which direction you’re moving in. If you find yourself moving towards a path in order to avoid something else, it may be time to reassess. Many times in life it is essential to just be, as well as to know how to move away from situations that are not healthy for us. However, if you find yourself moving in a direction and want to know if it’s the “right” one (p.s. There is never a “right” or “perfect” one, just right for you!), it may help to think of the saying: “wherever you go there you are.” This saying has become a palpable teacher over the years during my travels. I would find myself in completely new environments, stripped away from all the familiarities and comforts of my daily life – and all that remained was me. I was much more clearly able to decipher the patterns, thoughts, and struggles that followed me no matter what geographical location I was in. 

You Get Excited *Thinking* About It 

When you’re with yourself, do you find yourself fantasizing and getting excited about the direction you’re moving in? Whether it be a career, academic, or creative endeavor, talking with others is one thing… but when you’re with yourself, what are the contents of your thoughts? We tend to be the most honest with ourselves when we are alone–and if we are not, our bodies definitely tell us! This is where I like to identify if my body is telling me that I’m experiencing anxiety/nervousness or excitement. Our body processes these two emotions through the same physiological mechanism, yet there are subtle differences. With both, you may feel more antsy and restless, but anxiety usually leads to avoidance and burnout, whereas excitement leads to purposeful engagement with the endeavor at hand.

You Feel a Certain Level of Competence 

Sure, imposter syndrome can happen in every field. We are always learning, after all! However, if you’re on the right path *for you*, you may feel a combination of ease and competence with an energized motivation to expand upon your gifts/skills! This may be due to tuning into what you want versus what others want for you. There is a deep freedom that arises from us connecting ourselves as our starting point, and moving onward from there!

Your Life Feels More Purposeful 

A telltale sign that you’re moving in the right direction is the feeling of your life being more full rather than busy. A full life can be a busy one, as can an “empty” experience of your day-to-day life. Pay close attention to whether your days feel full, instead of focusing on the amount of responsibilities and/or opportunities you have. Do you feel purpose in the majority of your day-to-day endeavors? Do you feel a sense of meaning that you are creating through your pursuits? As humans, we are deeply wired to seek and create meaning in our lives. 

Finding the right clinician to help you ascertain whether you are on the right path for you can be a profound process! Please get in touch with our Client Care Coordinator at Root to Rise to book an appointment with one of our therapists today.

With gratitude,

Atalie Abramovici, LMFT

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Opposite Action
Opposite Action
Nature Metaphors: Therapeutic Tools
Nature Metaphors: Therapeutic Tools
Differences In Sexual Desire
Differences In Sexual Desire
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Holding Two Truths at Once

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Holding Two Truths at Once

There is so much complexity in relating to others’ experiences while effectively relaying our own experience! One of the most powerful practices I’ve adopted and shared with my clients is the art of holding two truths at one. 

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Let’s Talk About Sex!

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Let’s Talk About Sex!

Let’s first acknowledge that talking openly about sex with our partner(s) involves some vulnerability and discomfort. However, having open conversations about sex is crucial for creating a healthier and more satisfying relationship. As much as we try to convince ourselves, humans are not capable of mind-reading, so the first step to having the sexual relationship we crave is by talking about it. We can’t get what we want without saying we want it! 

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Levels of Validation

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Levels of Validation

We all want to feel valid in our experience—and for our partner to acknowledge it.

 As a therapist, one of the most effective tools I teach couples is how to practice validation.

Once they start actively strengthening their validation muscle, emotional security can be nurtured. This is because validation in a relationship increases trust, strengthens empathy, and creates space for vulnerability.

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Inside-Out Healing

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Inside-Out Healing

At some point in your pursuit of caring for your mental health, you may have stumbled across the words “Somatic Therapy” or “Somatic Experiencing.” While this approach is widely used, it often leaves therapy-seekers curious about its definition and importance. So, what does it really mean to engage in somatic therapy, and how is it helpful? 

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Rewiring Your Brain for Success

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Rewiring Your Brain for Success

Imagine this: You’re about to speak in front of a group of people, and suddenly, your body seems to have a mind of its own. Your heart starts pounding, your palms get sweaty, and there’s that unmistakable fluttering sensation in your stomach. 

Does this feeling sound familiar? Maybe it is set off by the fear of spiders, heights, or flying, but most of us have something that can make us feel paralyzed by fear. 

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Holding Multiple Emotions at Once

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Holding Multiple Emotions at Once

In the last six months, I have experienced both the most joyous and most painful moments of my life, often in the same week, day, or even hour. I have cried holding friends and then found myself doubling over with laughter within the same embrace. I have celebrated unions of love while mourning those who weren’t there to celebrate with me. I have intellectually understood the concept that we can hold multiple emotions at once, but this year taught me to truly notice and appreciate the way my heart has been able to stretch in new ways to hold these intense, often conflicting experiences. 

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Behaviors and Identity

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Behaviors and Identity

Through much of my work with clients, I understand the importance of creating a distinction between behaviors and identity. In a recent session, a client expressed the cognitive dissonance they were experiencing due to the polarity of respecting and admiring their partner yet finding their current behaviors to be very off-putting. Having an awareness of the duality of a person’s character and behaviors can go a long way in increasing compassion, understanding, and communication.

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The Inner Critic

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The Inner Critic

Do these sound familiar to you? When you hear these messages, whose voice do you hear? If you’re picturing yourself saying these things, you might be experiencing life with a pesky inner critic in your ear. You might be wondering where this inner critic came from, especially if you’ve never experienced a day in your life where you weren’t critical of yourself. So did this inner critic just show up one day? Well, no, not exactly. I want to emphasize that you are not born self-critical. This is a learned behavior shaped by childhood experiences and upbringing.

 

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