Being productive or accomplished can become a primary way of feeling like we're enough. So when life slows down, it can really feel like an identity disruption.
Tired Even When Life Slows Down
Being Liked vs Being Known
You may have learned what to do or say to make things go smoother. You may have learned what behaviors or attitudes made people stay. You learned what made you easier to accept.
And slowly, those lessons became automatic.
What's Your Attachment Style?
Attachment styles are not your identity, but rather patterns for how your nervous system learned to keep you safe.
Stop Optimizing Your Joy
The moment we pick something up, our brain starts asking: How can I get better at this? How can I optimize this? Is this a productive use of my Saturday? The result? We never actually relax.
Dream Analysis in Therapy
No matter how absurd or seemingly random, our dreams contain rich unconscious material that acts as a symbolic treasure hunt leading towards our inner psyche.
Healing Negative Body Image
Many of us have complicated relationships with our bodies. For some, their body is a safe haven or a comfortable space where they are free to be and celebrate themselves. For others, the body is a source of disappointment, dissatisfaction, discomfort, and even self-hatred.
Building a Life Around Values
Values are principles that motivate and inspire you. They often reflect your passions or what you care about, and can be a driving force in shifting behavior toward more purposeful living.
Identity Lag
When a big life change happens seemingly overnight, even something positive, your body is often left behind and needs a chance to catch up. Sometimes, life changes before our identity can.
Anger: The Bodyguard of the Psyche
People often come to therapy because they are struggling with anger. They describe snapping at a partner, feeling constantly irritated, or reacting in ways that feel disproportionate to the situation.